Thanksgiving Covid plans... got any?
- Thread starter budman
- Start date
m0t0_ryder
RYD!
First...
I want to apologize to all for the negativity in my post. I realize now that it is a little inappropriate to the subject matter and should have stayed in my house and not the house of barf.
I do want to thank those who replied with empathy towards my situation, one that most all will go through at some time in their lives.
I especially want to thank "empathy-chick" for your reply.
I had been torturing myself over whether to return to Oregon for Dad's final days or to stay down here as "there's nothing I could do" to help up there.
You made me remember that presence is doing something. It is help, even w/o words.
So, I am heading back up to Oregon to be with my Dad as his book of life reaches it's conclusion. He helped create my "book of life" so the least I can do is be part of the final chapter of his.
Thanks again "wise-chick". I owe you a debt of gratitude and look forward to meeting you someday to say so personally.
To barf...
May all your Thanksgiving celebrations in this time of weirdness be tryptophan ladled and virus free!
-John
I want to apologize to all for the negativity in my post. I realize now that it is a little inappropriate to the subject matter and should have stayed in my house and not the house of barf.
I do want to thank those who replied with empathy towards my situation, one that most all will go through at some time in their lives.
I especially want to thank "empathy-chick" for your reply.
I had been torturing myself over whether to return to Oregon for Dad's final days or to stay down here as "there's nothing I could do" to help up there.
You made me remember that presence is doing something. It is help, even w/o words.
So, I am heading back up to Oregon to be with my Dad as his book of life reaches it's conclusion. He helped create my "book of life" so the least I can do is be part of the final chapter of his.
Thanks again "wise-chick". I owe you a debt of gratitude and look forward to meeting you someday to say so personally.
To barf...
May all your Thanksgiving celebrations in this time of weirdness be tryptophan ladled and virus free!
-John
GAJ
Well-known member
Not at all, years ago I shared my daughter's stroke on BARF and the empathy was like a tidal wave and really helped.
She's 100 percent now.
You are undertaking a difficult trip but I think you will look back on it with a sense that you "did the right thing."
All the best to you and your family during this family challenge that most of us face with our parents at some point in our lives if we are lucky enough to outlive them.
cheez
Master Of The Darkside
As a guy stuck half a world away while his dad took a sudden turn for the worse and passed (somewhat) unexpectedly at 63, I think you made the right choice. Go help write that final chapter. It'll be part of your story also.
John..
Sharing the personal side of life here is all good to me. I actually appreciate the share. Wish you the best on the final chapter of your Dad's life. It won't be easy and will leave you hollowed for a while, but I think the love and honor of you choice is solid.
Sharing the personal side of life here is all good to me. I actually appreciate the share. Wish you the best on the final chapter of your Dad's life. It won't be easy and will leave you hollowed for a while, but I think the love and honor of you choice is solid.
WoodsChick
I Don't Do GPS
Your post was not filled with negativity. It was filled with pain, confusion, and love for your dad. If we can't share these things here then what's the point of being here? And you're right about it being something that all of us will experience someday. I think knowing you're not alone in that, and benefitting from the experience of others is totally something to be thankful for, so you see how it all comes together?
Best of luck to you and your family in Oregon. It'll be tough but worth it, I promise. And a big fat yes to meeting you in person someday when we won't kill each other with our cooties! :laughing
ThankfulChick
mosquito
Above all I like to play.
Johndicezx9
Rolls with it...
Bought a Turkey forTwo, mashed potatoes for 9 (I luvs my mashed), stuffing fixes, etc... good to go for a quiet day at home.
Bowling4Bikes
Steee-riiike!
:thumbup
I couldn't reply originally because it hit a bit close to home for me. I held hands with my mom and my dad on their respective death beds, 10 years apart. I felt their lives leave their bodies. It is horrible, and emotional, and great, and right. So, IMO I believe you are making a very good choice, for yourself and your future psyche. You will continue, and you will be able to say you were there for him when it mattered most. Your dad's final thoughts may literally be about your touch or your presence. And what more could a dad want???
best,
Dan
You guys so rock. Sniff.
My bubble is very small, though my dad, sis and bro are all in Sunnyvale. I will prolly stop by and miss any contact closer than ten feet. It will still be good to see them.
We will have mashed potatoes and yummy veggies in our bubble.
Hugs to you all.
My bubble is very small, though my dad, sis and bro are all in Sunnyvale. I will prolly stop by and miss any contact closer than ten feet. It will still be good to see them.
We will have mashed potatoes and yummy veggies in our bubble.
Hugs to you all.
Johndicezx9
Rolls with it...
If my dad didn't pass when he did in 2019, then 2020 would have definitely done him in with COVID (he was incredibly social, loved being around and out with his friends) and the election result (not to get political, but he HATED Biden)!
Kurosaki
Akai Suisei - 赤い彗星
Where'd you buy it from?
Traveled 1600 miles to Texas in my truck camper. The only contact has been with the gas pump, mask on, and gloves. Have done 3 weeks of not seeing anyone or going out. The daughter is due the first week of December. This will be our first Thanksgiving and Christmas with them in 8 years. They have been living in Switzerland and before in Baltimore, timing just has not worked before.
berth
Well-known member
If you're going to quarantine, boy this is the way to do it. Beats being crammed in a motel for 2 weeks.
