Went to see my 89 year old father (in Oregon) last week.
He just (then) went under hospice care.
Now they have a hospital bed for him in the living room and give him 10-14 days.
I am torn between going back up to be with him to the end, or staying down here as there really is nothing I can do up there.
Fuck 2020!
That Sux!
Lost my Mom almost 2 years ago, she was also 89.
I was glad to be with her when she passed. She was comforted knowing I was there as well as my sister.
Just my $0.02 worth.
I'm sorry to hear about your dad, ryder. And your mom, too, motomania.
Obviously you have to do what's right for you and your family, but I think just being there is important, and this is why: When my dad's time was near all 5 of us girls went to be with him. I'd brought a DVD we'd made of our old family movies from the `60's and we watched it while my dad lay unconscious in his hospital bed in the living room. We spent the evening howling with laughter at the funny old movies, telling stories about our childhood and our dad, and taking turns crying, but with gratitude in our hearts. I spent the night, and the next morning my dad started to stir. He never opened his eyes but he was clearly present. I told him we were all there the night before and he nodded with a tiny smile and said "Laugh!" I asked him if he was glad he had 5 girls that loved him and he nodded yes. When I asked if he'd rather have had 5 sons he shook his head no and said "Trouble!" That was the extent of our last conversation, as he was gone about 12 hours later. But he
knew we were there! That simple fact has carried me through the darkest days of my life these last 3 years. Maybe your dad won't say anything, but I know for a fact he'll sense your presence. However it goes, I wish you peace and comfort in these tough times, ryder.
As for my plans, my "bubble" is my husband Eric and my 87-year-old father-in-law. That's it. My father-in-law will be spending Thanksgiving with Eric's twin brother so it'll just be the two of us, probably painting our living room and enjoying a few Irish coffees in front of our new wood stove. I'll bake a chicken, make homemade cranberry orange sauce with walnuts, and some roasted butternut squash with sage and garlic. I will be thankful for the wonderful things that have come my way during this most crazy and tumultuous year, and be thankful that it's almost over.
