Petty e-Payment stories among 'friends' and acquaintances

[AbsolutEnduser]

This is some entertainment and/or a window of some inner "business" "workings"

https://www.sfgate.com/entertainmen...y-twitter-payment-12952214.php#photo-15635412

click through the slideshow titles..
.. one of the milder comical ones is "sent a payment requests for an item she picked up at the store for someone else. But with a $5 surcharge for the trouble". :cool

 

[TylerW]

I like Venmo well enough, it's great for quick and easy payments between friends. But the public feed of friends and their transactions always weirds me out.

EDIT s/live/like/

 

[AbsolutEnduser]

i live venmo?

I don't live/love or use venmo btw, PP still exists right? (It does. I know it does. :x)

public feeds? OMG that'd be terrible. Now I know my best friend doesn't use Venmo.. he'd be totally weirded out if I see his transactions..

 

[two wheel tramp]

I use PayPal and the cash app. Charging someone 38 cents for salsa? Are you fuckin' kidding me? Is hospitality completely lost? I cannot imagine inviting someone for dinner and then sending them a bill.

 

[TylerW]

i live venmo?

I don't live/love or use venmo btw, PP still exists right? (It does. I know it does. :x)

public feeds? OMG that'd be terrible. Now I know my best friend doesn't use Venmo.. he'd be totally weirded out if I see his transactions..

Venmo is owned by paypal. It's a little bit less cumbersome to send money than paypal, so people use it for really casual transactions. I think people most often use it to even up after a group dinner so the waitstaff doesn't have to split the bill a bunch of different ways.

 

[Yakoo752]

PayPal owns Venmo

 

[Kurosaki]

In the last house I rented we used venmo for rent and utilities. everyone pays one person, that person pays landlord. easy. I'll be doing that again at my new house.

i live venmo?

I don't live/love or use venmo btw, PP still exists right? (It does. I know it does. :x)

public feeds? OMG that'd be terrible. Now I know my best friend doesn't use Venmo.. he'd be totally weirded out if I see his transactions..

You don't have to make it public and I'm not sure why posting it publicly is the default option.

Nobody gives a shit if you paid your roommate for their part of the dinner bill or for a concert ticket they bought for you.

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

After reading some of the commentary, I'm still confused how "Gentlemen" allow a lady to pay for anything while on a date; it's such an obscure concept to me. Even in a world where it's quite possible her income is larger, I just can't wrap my head around it; if a woman insisted, I'd just go pay the waiter or bartender directly and politely end the evening.

Perhaps in some misguided way, I still see a Lady's company as my privilege to partake in; with nothing expected, nor owed.

 

[Blankpage]

After reading some of the commentary, I'm still confused how "Gentlemen" allow a lady to pay for anything while on a date; it's such an obscure concept to me. Even in a world where it's quite possible her income is larger, I just can't wrap my head around it; if a woman insisted, I'd just go pay the waiter or bartender directly and politely end the evening.

Perhaps in some misguided way, I still see a Lady's company as my privilege to partake in; with nothing expected, nor owed.

Chivalry is dead, screw that, you will be treated like a sucker.
On the first date fine, maybe the 2nd also. But after that a chick who couldn't be bothered to offer to at least split a bill is someone I'd never have long term plans for. Pull your weight or find another sucker.

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

Chivalry is dead, screw that, you will be treated like a sucker.
On the first date fine, maybe the 2nd also. But after that a chick who couldn't be bothered to offer to at least split a bill is someone I'd never have long term plans for. Pull your weight or find another sucker.

So traditional courtships, just forget it, eh?

Just so I understand this, from your perspective; If "I" choose to court a Lady, in a manner that treats her with reverence I'm a sucker?

Don't get me wrong, I'm a big fan of intermingling finances, but generally I kind of think of that in terms of matrimony; not courting.

 

[UDRider]

Maybe Blankpage was a bit too forceful in his statement. That being said long term dating does set presedence/expectations. If you are paying for everything while dating, then say let's split stuff once married/engaged kind of false advertising. lol

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

Maybe Blankpage was a bit too forceful in his statement. That being said long term dating does set presedence/expectations. If you are paying for everything while dating, then say let's split stuff once married/engaged kind of false advertising. lol

Ohhhh..... I see.

I forget that "Modern Marriage" is different from the traditional; in which it was an expectation that a couple had a shared bank account for the betterment of the household.

I guess, my naivety allowed me to believe that a shared "pot" of money if you will, for the greater good of the whole was still the social norm.

I almost find "the false advertising" concept a little odd as well; but hey man, I haven't dated stateside for about two years. What do I know? (these comments, make me believe it's better I never do :laughing)

Thanks for explaining.

 

[Blankpage]

So traditional courtships, just forget it, eh?

Just so I understand this, from your perspective; If "I" choose to court a Lady, in a manner that treats her with reverence I'm a sucker?

Don't get me wrong, I'm a big fan of intermingling finances, but generally I kind of think of that in terms of matrimony; not courting.

Yes forget it, you are exposing yourself to being taken advantage of. I don't think its going to earn you any extra points and could likely save you a lot of wasted time if, from the start, you show that you are each to be treated as equal in the relationship.
Courtship etiquette has to take into account the region and in California tradition is nonexistent. Best to not beat around the bush.

The first girl I met after arriving in California bragged about how she and her friends would go out to a bar and sucker guys into buying them free drinks. I should have thanked her for that lesson cause I'd often refer to it ever since.

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

Yes forget it, you are exposing yourself to being taken advantage of. I don't think its going to earn you any extra points and could likely save you a lot of wasted time if, from the start, you show that you are each to be treated as equal in the relationship.
Courtship etiquette has to take into account the region and in California tradition is nonexistent. Best to not beat around the bush.

The first girl I met after arriving in California bragged about how she and her friends would go out to a bar and sucker guys into buying them free drinks. I should have thanked her for that lesson cause I'd often refer to it ever since.

Wait, can I ask a few questions here? (I know I'm not really asking permission here, I'm just using the first question as a preparatory obviously, )

First of all why would I want to "earn extra points"? Is it not okay to generally enjoy the company of a woman?

Why would I treat a creature I believe to be in most ways superior to their male counterpart as an equal? Doesn't that literally imply a lesser stature?

I've got it, there's disingenuous people of all shapes, and types; but I'm feeling like you're using your experience to "Shape" a reality that may or my not apply to all; is that a fair statement?

I do believe that "Birds of a feather, fly together", so perhaps a Public House wouldn't be a suitable place for someone like me to find stimulating conversation :laughing

 

[JesasaurusRex]

I use PayPal and the cash app. Charging someone 38 cents for salsa? Are you fuckin' kidding me? Is hospitality completely lost? I cannot imagine inviting someone for dinner and then sending them a bill.

Peepz b broke

Honestly it's just that technology has made it so easy to avoid confrontation that this is what's happening. IRL nobody would ask to be reimbursed for salsa, but make an app for that and bam

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

IRL nobody would ask to be reimbursed for salsa, but make an app for that and bam

:laughing:laughing:laughing

 

[Blankpage]

Wait, can I ask a few questions here? (I know I'm not really asking permission here, I'm just using the first question as a preparatory obviously, )

First of all why would I want to "earn extra points"? Is it not okay to generally enjoy the company of a woman?

Why would I treat a creature I believe to be in most ways superior to their male counterpart as an equal? Doesn't that literally imply a lesser stature?

I've got it, there's disingenuous people of all shapes, and types; but I'm feeling like you're using your experience to "Shape" a reality that may or my not apply to all; is that a fair statement?

I do believe that "Birds of a feather, fly together", so perhaps a Public House wouldn't be a suitable place for someone like me to find stimulating conversation :laughing

Well actually California isn't unique and women are not magical princesses to be put on a pedestal. Keep doing your thing, whatever makes you happy.

 

[*VillageIdiot*]

Well actually California isn't unique and women are not magical princesses to be put on a pedestal. Keep doing your thing, whatever makes you happy.

Fair enough, that's a perspective. I concede that my reality is my own

However, I'm happy to answer any questions from my limited experience as to why I feel that way, you might have; I think it's unfair for me to be unwilling to share.

 

[Removed 3]

I like Venmo well enough, it's great for quick and easy payments between friends. But the public feed of friends and their transactions always weirds me out.

EDIT s/live/like/

Venmo, is it as easy as entering your friend's phone number and then send them a bill?

i can see if there was a prearrangement to split an expected bill evenly for an event but to get a bill unexpectedly for something you wouldn't otherwise get had the app never existed seems weird. imagine writing out the bill on a piece of paper and handing that over to a friend. the digital age is certainly straining relationships, not making them better ...

I like PayPal just as it is. I have prearranged for what I am paying for, I know what I am paying for ...

 

[Removed 3]

Fair enough, that's a perspective. I concede that my reality is my own

However, I'm happy to answer any questions from my limited experience as to why I feel that way, you might have; I think it's unfair for me to be unwilling to share.

hey, i thought you were attached to a ball n chain? :laughing