I'm gonna drop it to 30-35k...
Reliability
Handling
Speed
Looks
4d
Random ancillaries like led headlights or 27 million way adjustable seats don't matter as long as its comfortable.
They had a Maserati on the lot, 2015 for 30k, I assume that's in the same group as the alfa?
IMO, you really can't have all of those without really giving one of them up. I love BMW's, I think for being sport sedans, you can't beat them. I also believe it's the closest to all of what you want. However, it might lack a little reliability, or some would say. My wife and I currently lease a 2016 BMW 428i Gran Coupe. I absolutely love it. I think it's a great looking car, it can fit a christmas tree inside because of the hatch design. the infotainment and nav screen are angled a couple degrees towards the driver but it makes all the difference. nothing like my old M4 but for my wife to drive daily, i couldnt be happier.
The Lexus sounds like what might suit you best, it will give you a good amount of reliability but I think the handling sucks. Then again, I think that about a lot of cars, in fact, most of them, lol.
When I worked at the auction in Hayward, I only saw a few Maserati's. and most of them caught fire for some reason.
What about safety? is that a concern for you?
crash test ratings?
collision avoidance, assisted breaking, etc?
trust me, really sit down and think about the small things. you wouldn't believe how many customer i get that tell me, had they known something about their car, they would not have purchased it.