My Niece asked me to walk her

2nsane

2nsane

Retired Coastie
Down the Isle.

So Yesterday I get a call from my niece's boyfriend,. We have a nice chat and he asked my permission to marry my niece. :thumbup after plenty of uncle type q&a I give him my blessing because my niece is the happiest she has been in years. Then my niece calls me and asks if I will walk her down the isle. I told her I would be honored and yes I would. I am conflicted on one part though. The wife asked why I don't wait to walk my own daughter down the isle. I was caught off guard by this and can tell it bothers my wife some I said yes. Is there some unwritten rule I don't know about that states you should only walk your kiddo down the isle? Help me understand?
 
Yakoo752

Yakoo752

USN
Nope, I would be honored to walk someone down the aisle.

Ask your wife why it bothers her and don't settle for BS answers. Just because/tradition/etc are BS answers.

I'm assuming your daughter is too young to understand the complexities of this, else get her blessing. :dunno
 
rodr

rodr

Well-known member
Yeah, no, I never heard of that rule.

Something else is bugging your wife. : |
 
M

MysterYvil

Mr. Bad Example
I was asked by a friend and her family to walk her down the aisle; her father was too old and ill to fly from Japan to the U.S. It was an honor and a pleasure.

I walked our foster daughter down the aisle and also got the daughter/father dance. No one from her family had the slightest objection.

The only tradition of which I am aware is "give the bride what she wants."
 
Bzwrthy

Bzwrthy

FNORD
It may just come down to the fact that she never anticipated the situation and was caught off guard herself. Typically your child is the only option you have.
Hopefully, after further discussion, she will see this as the honor that it is. It in no way lessens the importance of walking your daughter down the aisle later.
 
Cyclesuzy

Cyclesuzy

Proud Pissant Squid
I'm with everyone else, although not an expert, I know of no reason to not walk your niece down the aisle and congrats to all involved. :)
 
2nsane

2nsane

Retired Coastie
That's what I was thinking. My kiddo is only 14 and super stoked I was asked as well and gave me her blessing to do it. And it probably did catch the wife off guard,. I'm just no expert and was thinking I may be missing something and would reach out to you all before I make an ass out of myself. More than usual that is:rofl
 
SFMCjohn

SFMCjohn

13
... we had a deal like that in my family ...
I suspect my mother's objections were
simply that she didn't want to be sitting
by herself as the bride made her entrance ... :laughing:party
 
budman

budman

General Menace
Staff member
Whichever "Isle" you walk on.... it is an honor.

Tell the wife like anything in life.. Practice makes perfect. :teeth

Congrats.
 
Erbuck

Erbuck

Power Lurker
SFMCjohn said:
... we had a deal like that in my family ...
I suspect my mother's objections were
simply that she didn't want to be sitting
by herself as the bride made her entrance ... :laughing:party
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I like this answer.

I was thinking your wife was hurt she wasn't included in the wedding party or asked (hint, hint, its not too late to sneak that request in). But John's answer is less presumptuous than mine.
 
Hawaiirider

Hawaiirider

Well-known member
Oh no...you can only walk someone down the aisle a certain number of times - it's in The Rules...you know, the ones written somewhere we don't give a crap about...

Tell your wife that you'd be fine with her request, she just has to get the daughter engaged, QUICK-like.
 
Eldritch

Eldritch

is insensitive
2nsane said:
Down the Isle.

So Yesterday I get a call from my niece's boyfriend,. We have a nice chat and he asked my permission to marry my niece. :thumbup after plenty of uncle type q&a I give him my blessing because my niece is the happiest she has been in years. Then my niece calls me and asks if I will walk her down the isle. I told her I would be honored and yes I would. I am conflicted on one part though. The wife asked why I don't wait to walk my own daughter down the isle. I was caught off guard by this and can tell it bothers my wife some I said yes. Is there some unwritten rule I don't know about that states you should only walk your kiddo down the isle? Help me understand?
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This is a great honor, well done, do it justice. I suspect your wife feels somehow threatened by this relationship, I would examine that. I assume your sibling is for some reason not capable?
 
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