Gifts for wedding party.......HELP!
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Wrap me up. Im a great gift.
HellFyre
Super Fancy.
Bad Dad said:
I recently went through this and came to the following conclusion.
If you are invited to be part of the wedding party, either bridesmaid or groomsman, you are a good friend of the bride or groom. And with that in mind, good friends help others carry burdens. I took it as an honor and a compliment to help my friend carry his burden, even if it was only a hundred bucks.
But that's just the way I saw it...
HellFyre
Super Fancy.
Bad Dad said:
And furthermore (sorry, this line just bothers me), they asked you. It's not like taxes where you have no choice. If the cost of the tux rankled you that much, you could have just said, "No thanks", and bypassed sharing what (for 50% of the people) is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
racergirl
Roger! Roger!
tiffanie said:Okay......My wedding ( Yes I am getting Hitched!) is in 6 weeks and I still don't know what gifts to get my Bridal Party.....So help por favor
in my familiy for the women, earrings or earring / necklace sets were given. Sizes of the stone were based on age....usually sapphires.
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MovieSurferGuy
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Or that bread maker from old school.
Bad Dad
Laughing at the hypocrisy
Hellfyre, no need to take it so seriously. (note the :laughing) (and note the future bride agreeing with me)
If you can explain a way to tactfully say "No thanks, I don't want the honor of being in your wedding" to any friend or family member, without repercussion, then please let us know!
My point was, why make me pay for a tux, if you're just going to buy me a gift of a similar price?
I was just in my cousins wedding that I know is doomed from the get go, that I didn't want to be in, that I couldn't afford the extra $100 to rent a tux. I got a Revo watch as a gift.(I also found out that I was asked when a couple buddies flaked on him. gee thanks for letting me know I was your 3rd choice. :laughing) I was also asked to be a Best Man in a wedding for a buddy for another wedding that was anulled within 4 months.
Not every wedding is a fairy-tale "once in a lifetime experience".
The gown comment was a male perspective of the silly tradition of the bridal party having to BUY gaudy gowns that will never be worn again.
If you can explain a way to tactfully say "No thanks, I don't want the honor of being in your wedding" to any friend or family member, without repercussion, then please let us know!
My point was, why make me pay for a tux, if you're just going to buy me a gift of a similar price?
I was just in my cousins wedding that I know is doomed from the get go, that I didn't want to be in, that I couldn't afford the extra $100 to rent a tux. I got a Revo watch as a gift.(I also found out that I was asked when a couple buddies flaked on him. gee thanks for letting me know I was your 3rd choice. :laughing) I was also asked to be a Best Man in a wedding for a buddy for another wedding that was anulled within 4 months.
Not every wedding is a fairy-tale "once in a lifetime experience".
The gown comment was a male perspective of the silly tradition of the bridal party having to BUY gaudy gowns that will never be worn again.
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HellFyre
Super Fancy.
Bad Dad said:
Then why were you in it? If you have such complete lack of support for it, why did you agree to be part of it? Was it because you were close enough with the friend/family member to see beyond that?
Frankly, if you can see beyond the utter futility of that marriage to stand by your friend anyways in spite of him/her making a huge life-long commitment mistake, then what's $100 for a Revo watch? :confused
Oh, and I do believe in the once-in-a-lifetime thing, but then again, that's probably why I'm not married. :laughing I know, I'm naive.
cat_in_sf
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Maybe it's the people I know, but it's 50/50 on the wedding party paying for their own tuxs/gowns. My parents paid cuz I asked them to.....and I didn't get a couple of "pricey" items to make up for it.
AND, a lot of the time, you have no idea how much it will cost. You're asked to be in a wedding, you say SURE, LOVE to, then low-and-behold the crack-ass maid of honor MUST HAVE the $350 dress (that looks good only on her) and MUST HAVE a $1500 limo for the bachelorette (that the bridesmaids have to pitch in for) and ALSO wants a 30-person catered bridal shower (again, the bridesmaids pay for it) and you've gone and spent oh, say $1500 before even paying for the hotel & travel.
AND, a lot of the time, you have no idea how much it will cost. You're asked to be in a wedding, you say SURE, LOVE to, then low-and-behold the crack-ass maid of honor MUST HAVE the $350 dress (that looks good only on her) and MUST HAVE a $1500 limo for the bachelorette (that the bridesmaids have to pitch in for) and ALSO wants a 30-person catered bridal shower (again, the bridesmaids pay for it) and you've gone and spent oh, say $1500 before even paying for the hotel & travel.
bigt
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Condoms! I saw that Wedding Crashers movie, and there looks like there is a lot of sex and stuff going on at those weddings.:shhh
tiffanie said:Okay......My wedding ( Yes I am getting Hitched!) is in 6 weeks and I still don't know what gifts to get my Bridal Party.....So help por favor
Climber
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Not to hijack your thread, but it always cracked me up how the bridesmaids had to pay for their wear-once (they are almost always unattractive to accentuate the brides gown and to make her look great) dresses that they didn't choose and usually didn't even want to wear because they never made them look good, only to have them take up closet space because they couldn't bear to throw out something that costed that much! :laughing
Lisa
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I'm going through the same thing. I had no idea what to get my bridal party. I have tons of time still to think about it (the wedding isn't until May of 2007), but my fiancee and I have opted not to buy gifts, but to pay for their tuxes/dresses instead. And out of our own pocket, not my parents. I think that's the best gift we could give them, considering they're not all made of money, but still want to participate in the wedding. We're even paying to fly a few of them out here from out of state.
On another note, if you're asked to be in a bridal party (as I have many times) you should take the offer as an honor, and not expect gifts should you accept that offer. Yes, you may put your time, effort, and even money into it, but what's better than supporting your friend/family member in their time of need?
On another note, if you're asked to be in a bridal party (as I have many times) you should take the offer as an honor, and not expect gifts should you accept that offer. Yes, you may put your time, effort, and even money into it, but what's better than supporting your friend/family member in their time of need?