Friends with the Ex?

roxy

roxy

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Topic of the morning at the office ---

How many of you are still friends with your Ex? To what extent is the friendship? (How often do you talk/hangout) And how does your current SO feel about it?

How appropriate is it to continue a friendship with your ex if you're involved with someone else?

Do you have motives behind keeping them in your life? (hoping for that 2nd chance, etc.)

If your current SO isn't comfortable with it, do you hide details of the friendship from them?

Do tell.
 
gixxerjoeca

gixxerjoeca

Banned
My gf was friends with her ex-husband until i told him if he comes in the house without knocking again i would knock him the fuck out.:laughing

Now its great he never comes around at all!:teeth
 
HIglesias

HIglesias

Well-known member
I'm friends with one ex at the moment. but we were really good friends before and after, and now she's a lesbo so it's alright. i think, with my SO.

but for real tho, all the hot chicks i've dated i wouldn't want to be friends with them just cuz i couldn't stand the thought of someone else giving them the "O" face!

my SO is still sorta friends with her ex and it bothers me, but not enough to make a stink. it was like 5 years ago anyway. think of it as a challenge in trust.
but as far as being a guy, you know why we'd still be friends with them.....
 
V4

V4

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE
when wimmenz say , " we should just stay friends " after a break up, it really means, " please don't hunt me down, stalk me, or come nekkid in the middle of the night for a booty call.."
 
wazzuFreddo

wazzuFreddo

WuTang is 4 the children
One ex I am friendly with and another I don't interact with. They both live in far off places, which is a good deal for them because my wife would probably shank them if they came around. :D
 
silverbelt

silverbelt

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In a few rare cases you might be able to get away with it. Best not to maintain any relationship with your ex. Move on to the next one.

I can't see how any SO would be comfortable with it. If you do get involved again with your ex, you've taken your SO down with you.
 
Mike T

Mike T

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I send the occasional text to say hello or Merry Christmas (like last year)....in which *from what i heard* her now fiance/husband(her bf a few months after we split) goes apeshit on her....for some reason, he thinks a text saying "Merry Christmas" was me hitting on her...so after that, no interaction whatsoever
 
Kornholio

Kornholio

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I hated her at first but then, after a adult conversation with her about everything, I started to see it from her point of view. I don't think we'll ever be misconstrued as friends but I certainly don't have any issues with chatting with her when I need to as well as being friendly and wishing her well. I haven't hidden anything from her as far as me dating other women but then again, there really isn't much to tell her either. :facepalm

As far as it being appropriate or not, I don't know that anyone can truly speak for someone else in that regard. Some people are okay with it and others aren't. I think the only reason I'd probably keep a woman around after our relationship ended is if I truly thought there'd be a second chance. Even then, that'd only apply if she broke up with me and wasn't opposed to still being friends with me. Usually though, we just go our separate ways.
 
mercurial

mercurial

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I have a kid with my ex, so I will always be talking to her and if an SO has a problem with that, tough shit.

I actually see it as a negative mark if a potential SO can't handle a civil relationship with a longtime ex, because it means

she is crazy, unreasonable, or just a bitch
or
he is crazy, unreasonable, or just a dipshit (and she was stupid for staying with him for any reasonable period of time).
 
mikev

mikev

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mercurial said:
I have a kid with my ex, so I will always be talking to her and if an SO has a problem with that, tough shit.

I actually see it as a negative mark if a potential SO can't handle a civil relationship with a longtime ex, because it means

she is crazy, unreasonable, or just a bitch
or
he is crazy, unreasonable, or just a dipshit (and she was stupid for staying with him for any reasonable period of time).
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This.

I also would like to think that I'm not such an asshole that I can't be friends with someone after being in a relationship with them.
 
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