Can relationships survive after cheating?

Can relationships surive cheating?

  • Yes, with time and work

    Votes: 33 34.7%

  • Nope, no matter what you try to do it is done

    Votes: 62 65.3%
  • Total voters
    95
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Cali

Well-known member
I've known quite a few people who have either cheated or been cheated on and have seen some stay together and others break up. Just wondering what BARF has seen or experienced in the matter.

Is the relationship ultimately doomed due to cheating or can it be worked past and get back to being happy and healthy and endure?
 
zoomsplat

zoomsplat

And I was all "Braap!"
I knew a couple that had a very publicly "open" relationship. They were both cool with it, and had discussed the rules that they would both adhere to. I inquired once, as I was curious, and they were pretty basic and ensured that the outsider was an entirely physical adventure and not an emotional thing. The rules were along the lines of "Don't ditch me to go bang someone else," and "you're only with them once."

I think, as Drew said, it depends on the relationship and the individuals involved. Its usually a symptom, indicative of someone feeling that their needs aren't being met or deeper psychological issues usually having to do with self esteem and acceptance. If the issues are worked through and the relationship is mutually important, then they can recover; but I wouldn't be surprised if it happened again at some point.
 
V4

V4

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE
imo, the relationship is done and if sticking together afterwards, then its out of convenience rather than love...

if cheated on and still sticking around, then could be insecurity on their own and move on.

if the cheater and still sticking around, the other one dumped you and you got no place to go but back home...:laughing
 
Blankpage

Blankpage

alien
Yes. Its a bit unrealistic to expect a person to reach a point in there life where they can never poke another hole. Its a physical need, doesn't mean you care less for the one you're with.
 
gixxerjeff

gixxerjeff

Dogs best friend
My marriage of 22 years didn't. (She cheated, not me)
But in our case it was symptomatic of much bigger things. A chicken/egg thing.
It did make kicking her to the curb a lot easier.
Looking back, I wish it had happened sooner, although it would have thrown my cosmic timing off and I never would have met the girl I am lucky enough to have now.
Everything happens for a reason.
 
byke

byke

Well-known member
I voted yes, mostly because of the word "can". People have definitely done it and will continue to do it, but I suspect the overwhelming majority do not grow old together.
 
augustiron

augustiron

2fast 2live 2young 2die
Cheating is the least of the problems. You have one partner who is unsatisfied, untruthful, hurtful and deceitful. Having sex with someone else was just a manifestation of other shitty traits no one in their right mind should want to be in a relationship with.
There is no "mistake" or other excuses. The issue is the cheater is acting shitty towards themselves and their partner. Adios.

Wanting to boink another person = natural, boinking another person while in a relationship? you should be man/woman enough to discuss with current partner beforehand. If they are truly awesome for you, you can work out a program that satisfies both of you. If they are against it? either suck it up and deal with it or get out. Don't be a sneaking lying shitbag in a shitty lying sneaky relationship with someone who wold kill you for who you really want to be.
 
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SpeedyCorky

SpeedyCorky

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^^^ bingo. its not about the cheating. the cheating is the result of an otherwise already failed relationship.



If the female cheats on the man, its OVER. A *sane* female would much rather have sex with the man she loves, than some other dude. If she goes to some other dude, she considers the 'loving' relationship done. its FOREVER done IMO. I would NEVER (like never, never, never) get back together with a girl who cheated on me. NEVER. like not even in the cards kinda never.


If a guy cheats on a girl, relationship MIGHT be salvagable. but likely not. most guys who cheat, are just cheaters, and will do it again when given enough time and/or opportunity.

so overall, can relationship survive cheating: no.
 
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asthmodeus

asthmodeus

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SpeedyCorky said:
^^^ bingo. its not about the cheating. the cheating is the result of an otherwise already failed relationship.



If the female cheats on the man, its OVER. A *sane* female would much rather have sex with the man she loves, than some other dude. If she goes to some other dude, she considers the 'loving' relationship done. its FOREVER done IMO. I would NEVER (like never, never, never) get back together with a girl who cheated on me. NEVER. like not even in the cards kinda never.


If a guy cheats on a girl, relationship MIGHT be salvagable. but likely not. most guys who cheat, are just cheaters, and will do it again when given enough time and/or opportunity.

so overall, can relationship survive cheating: no.
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no offense, but those sentiments insinuate that you consider females property on some level and lesser beings than males.
 
Britny

Britny

Bad Daughter
SpeedyCorky said:
^^^ bingo. its not about the cheating. the cheating is the result of an otherwise already failed relationship.



If the female cheats on the man, its OVER. A *sane* female would much rather have sex with the man she loves, than some other dude. If she goes to some other dude, she considers the 'loving' relationship done. its FOREVER done IMO. I would NEVER (like never, never, never) get back together with a girl who cheated on me. NEVER. like not even in the cards kinda never.


If a guy cheats on a girl, relationship MIGHT be salvagable. but likely not. most guys who cheat, are just cheaters, and will do it again when given enough time and/or opportunity.

so overall, can relationship survive cheating: no.
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Are you fucking kidding me? You think women only have sex with men they love? :wtf
That is the most sexist, ignorant statement I've heard in a long time. So it's not about feelings for the man, he's just some dumb animal that needs to fuck something? And the woman is some lost, confused damsel searching for love outside her marriage? Only insane women would ever cheat on their husbands? :rolleyes
 
Britny

Britny

Bad Daughter
asthmodeus said:
no offense, but those sentiments insinuate that you consider females property on some level and lesser beings than males.
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Well, you know. A cheating man just couldn't help himself. Women don't have sexual needs. If they cheat, they're looking for love.

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