CaptCrash
Dazed and Confused
I'm putting it in 1Rider because I think this idea applies to riders physical and mental health. Trust me. This will go somewhere.
Back in the day I was a TV newshooter and I worked the afternoon/pm shift. Sure, it was in Boise, Idaho but news happens everywhere so it was alternately stunningly boring and live fire exciting. I went to boring press conferences and active barricaded suspect calls. I saw what Fire can do...yeah, capitol F Fire, the kind that destroys homes and the running freight train of a crowning forest fire coming right at you. We interviewed kids with cancer and kids with no home. We got a taste of just about everything from crime to civics, hate to hospitals, A-10s to the zoo.
It was an eye opening experience. It's always cool when someone looks at you and the camera and lifts the police line and lets you in.
I remember one interview, at the very first question this lady broke down in tears put her head on her bandaged hands after my reporter asked her, right out of the gate, "How did it feel when you realized you weren't going to be able to get your kids out of the car?" This poor woman had grievously burned her hands and arms trying to unbuckle and rescue her kids from her burning car after an accident. I thought, "Asking that question was one of the singularly most horrifying things I've been party to." When I asked this reporter "How could you ask that?"
She said, "I have to. It's my job." She went on to a network posting in a major market and every once in a while I would see her on the TV and I would remember: "I have to. It's my job." Her job, and my job at the time were to observe, record and report. It was our job. We asked dreadful questions and intruded on private moments. This report held "It's our job" up like a blanket against the darkness. She didn't even think about how clumsily she had done her 'job' she just did it and had an excuse for her cruelty. A well crafted, careful, gentle question may have actually gotten her where she really wanted to be.
Now what does this have to do with riding and BARF? A lot I believe. See, we motorcyclists are around a fair amount of bad stuff. We see bad things and work on the periphery of tragedy. There are RIP threads and axid reports and tales of pain and shame.
It's easy to get jaded. You can grow cynical. You build defenses with gallows humor and petty indignation. You figure out how to talk about terrible loss and give it a flip and hide behind things like: "It's my job." It can become your "Job" to mock the mistakes of the unfortunate. To hide your feelings behind snarky comments and your fear with bluster and bravado.
Why hide? Why the black humor? Because at the base of it we all know that could have been me. Yeah, that pinpointing a minor mistake? That's clinging to your talisman and shaking your fist at the darkness--it won't happen to me because I scan 14 seconds ahead--unlike this dead knucklehead. Pretty soon you can believe your own hype and it's OK to be the guy who gives too much information or makes the inappropriate joke. You look for other's mistakes, forget context and mock the dead. The symptoms are hard to recognize in yourself because like a silent cancer they are slow to build and easy to overlook. The quest to quench the fear becomes a thick hide that blunts feeling. You're 'just telling it like it is' and 'trying to help learn from others mistakes.' In the worst cases you really can become a dick...and a dangerous one because all that macho mask really blinds you to your own abilities and shortcomings; your mask becomes a blindfold.
How did I know it's time to leave news? I was "racing the chopper" one day and I realized I wasn't someone I wanted to be. "Racing the chopper" is trying to get to a rural accident scene before LifeFlight can get there, land, load and leave. You hope you can get there in time to catch them loading the gurney into the chopper. If you can? You've got a killer shot of the victim getting aid and the chopper leaving. It can all be very, very dramatic. As I raced along I was listening to the scanner and actually watching the chopper out my drivers window. I was in for the win. I might even get the chopper landing. It was gonna be great...until the scanner spat out:
"Cancel LifeFlight 01."
I watched as the helo made a wide arcing turn at speed and turned back to Boise. Cancelling LifeFlight means one of two things--either the patient is dead or they're not really hurt that bad. See, in a rural accident you'll call for the bird prematurely to cut response time. Banging my hand on the steering wheel I said a mortifying thing:
"I sure hope somebody's dead because I do not want to waste my time driving all the way out there for nothing."
It was time to re-balance my life. It was clear that my values were becoming skewed. Instead of praying that they didn't need the chopper I had fully focused on me to avoid thinking about the possibility that someone's life was irrevocably changed.
If you've become jaded in your riding life. If you're overly cynical and spit sarcasm at the unlucky or unskilled? I'm not telling you to give it up I'm telling you that your shield may well be the death of you because the more you think you know it all? You don't. That gallows humor is really a symptom that you're trying to deal with danger by trivializing it.
You may be blinding yourself.
Be Safe.
Back in the day I was a TV newshooter and I worked the afternoon/pm shift. Sure, it was in Boise, Idaho but news happens everywhere so it was alternately stunningly boring and live fire exciting. I went to boring press conferences and active barricaded suspect calls. I saw what Fire can do...yeah, capitol F Fire, the kind that destroys homes and the running freight train of a crowning forest fire coming right at you. We interviewed kids with cancer and kids with no home. We got a taste of just about everything from crime to civics, hate to hospitals, A-10s to the zoo.
It was an eye opening experience. It's always cool when someone looks at you and the camera and lifts the police line and lets you in.
I remember one interview, at the very first question this lady broke down in tears put her head on her bandaged hands after my reporter asked her, right out of the gate, "How did it feel when you realized you weren't going to be able to get your kids out of the car?" This poor woman had grievously burned her hands and arms trying to unbuckle and rescue her kids from her burning car after an accident. I thought, "Asking that question was one of the singularly most horrifying things I've been party to." When I asked this reporter "How could you ask that?"
She said, "I have to. It's my job." She went on to a network posting in a major market and every once in a while I would see her on the TV and I would remember: "I have to. It's my job." Her job, and my job at the time were to observe, record and report. It was our job. We asked dreadful questions and intruded on private moments. This report held "It's our job" up like a blanket against the darkness. She didn't even think about how clumsily she had done her 'job' she just did it and had an excuse for her cruelty. A well crafted, careful, gentle question may have actually gotten her where she really wanted to be.
Now what does this have to do with riding and BARF? A lot I believe. See, we motorcyclists are around a fair amount of bad stuff. We see bad things and work on the periphery of tragedy. There are RIP threads and axid reports and tales of pain and shame.
It's easy to get jaded. You can grow cynical. You build defenses with gallows humor and petty indignation. You figure out how to talk about terrible loss and give it a flip and hide behind things like: "It's my job." It can become your "Job" to mock the mistakes of the unfortunate. To hide your feelings behind snarky comments and your fear with bluster and bravado.
Why hide? Why the black humor? Because at the base of it we all know that could have been me. Yeah, that pinpointing a minor mistake? That's clinging to your talisman and shaking your fist at the darkness--it won't happen to me because I scan 14 seconds ahead--unlike this dead knucklehead. Pretty soon you can believe your own hype and it's OK to be the guy who gives too much information or makes the inappropriate joke. You look for other's mistakes, forget context and mock the dead. The symptoms are hard to recognize in yourself because like a silent cancer they are slow to build and easy to overlook. The quest to quench the fear becomes a thick hide that blunts feeling. You're 'just telling it like it is' and 'trying to help learn from others mistakes.' In the worst cases you really can become a dick...and a dangerous one because all that macho mask really blinds you to your own abilities and shortcomings; your mask becomes a blindfold.
How did I know it's time to leave news? I was "racing the chopper" one day and I realized I wasn't someone I wanted to be. "Racing the chopper" is trying to get to a rural accident scene before LifeFlight can get there, land, load and leave. You hope you can get there in time to catch them loading the gurney into the chopper. If you can? You've got a killer shot of the victim getting aid and the chopper leaving. It can all be very, very dramatic. As I raced along I was listening to the scanner and actually watching the chopper out my drivers window. I was in for the win. I might even get the chopper landing. It was gonna be great...until the scanner spat out:
"Cancel LifeFlight 01."
I watched as the helo made a wide arcing turn at speed and turned back to Boise. Cancelling LifeFlight means one of two things--either the patient is dead or they're not really hurt that bad. See, in a rural accident you'll call for the bird prematurely to cut response time. Banging my hand on the steering wheel I said a mortifying thing:
"I sure hope somebody's dead because I do not want to waste my time driving all the way out there for nothing."
It was time to re-balance my life. It was clear that my values were becoming skewed. Instead of praying that they didn't need the chopper I had fully focused on me to avoid thinking about the possibility that someone's life was irrevocably changed.
If you've become jaded in your riding life. If you're overly cynical and spit sarcasm at the unlucky or unskilled? I'm not telling you to give it up I'm telling you that your shield may well be the death of you because the more you think you know it all? You don't. That gallows humor is really a symptom that you're trying to deal with danger by trivializing it.
You may be blinding yourself.
Be Safe.
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