Advice on whether to give gift

[OneRedLT4]

Ok, I'm probably looking for a female's perspective, but anyone could have experience with this one.

I want to give my GF a ring for Christmas, diamond and birthstone but don't want to have it confused with a proposal. Sure, that may come in the future, but not now or with the price range I'm looking at for this gift.

So how do I go about it, if at all, as to not create awkward or disappointment situation? I had one person say that if it's talked about ahead of time, then it should be ok, but that kinda kills the element of surprise.

What does the BARF experience have to offer in this situation?

 

[f=ma]

opcorn

 

[Caddywumpus]

Why dont you get her a tennis bracelet or a necklace or something?

 

[wazzuFreddo]

don't put a ring on it until you are ready to put a ring on it

 

[bikeama]

"I want to give my GF a ring for Christmas, diamond and birthstone but don't want to have it confused with a proposal. Sure, that may come in the future, but not now or with the price range I'm looking at for this gift.
"

Just do not understand this generation.:x Price range did not matter 37 years ago, simple gold band worked for me and the wife.


That said I agree, get a bracelet of something other than a ring and avoid the confusion.

 

[revnort]

Bracelet or necklace. No ring.

 

[MrIncredible]

Ok, I'm probably looking for a female's perspective, but anyone could have experience with this one.

I want to give my GF a ring for Christmas, diamond and birthstone but don't want to have it confused with a proposal. Sure, that may come in the future, but not now or with the price range I'm looking at for this gift.

So how do I go about it, if at all, as to not create awkward or disappointment situation? I had one person say that if it's talked about ahead of time, then it should be ok, but that kinda kills the element of surprise.

What does the BARF experience have to offer in this situation?

Safest bet is to buy yourself a dirtbike and get a new gf.

 

[rodr]

Agreeing with everyone else... no ring. That shit's dangerous. :laughing

 

[Matzoballa]

"This situation rings a bell, no diamonds." - says the female unit.

I say you're a stones throw from a rocky situation with that one, I'd play it cool and steer clear of the ring until it's time.. Sucks if you have to get it back...so make it count.

Cheers

 

[Gixxergirl1000]

Speaking as a girl, there is NO way you can "surprise" her with a ring... and NOT disappoint her if it doesn't come with a proposal.
Seriously, get her a tennis bracelet... long, narrow box cannot be mistaken for a rink box... or a necklace with matching earrings with the diamond/birthstone theme, comes in a large square box, also cannot be mistaken for a ring box.
Until you're ready to put THE ring on her finger, stay away from rings.
Either of the suggestions above will have her gloating to her friends... and gloat points are awesome!! :teeth

 

[splat]

Necklace.

You'll be safe, her family (and friends) won't ask her questions about it, and she won't have false hopes of what's in the box.

 

[Melissa]

why would a gift that is ring be associated with a marriage proposal?

 

[Cycle61]

There's a promise ring for sale in Grab Bag.

Barely used. :laughing

 

[Caddywumpus]

Because rings are commonly associated with engagements?

 

[TylerW]

Seriously, don't give her a ring, until you're ready to give her a ring.

End of story.

 

[UDRider]

Safest bet is to buy yourself a dirtbike and get a new gf.

Wise words my friend, wise words. :laughing

 

[OneRedLT4]

Wow, very surprised at the majority stating to stay clear of any ring. I thought the same as one person, what's wrong with a ring gift?

She doesn't wear bracelets, i don't ride dirt bikes, and got her a couple pendants already. She wants a simple cheap silver ring, she pointed one out at a street fair, but just can't bring myself to that level of cheesy.

As far as the generation comment, i can't speak for others, but at only $200-$400, it will put me really in the red with it being Christmas and all. 37 years ago, i was more interested in my bicycle ;-)


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[mean dad]

why would a gift that is ring be associated with a marriage proposal?

:rofl

Perhaps because one gives a ring when one proposes marriage?


OP:
How long have you guys been seeing each other? Is it serious? Is there any talk at all of a future together?

+1 for no ring, or at least a ring that is very obviously NOT a promise ring.

 

[i_am_the_koi]

Wow, very surprised at the majority stating to stay clear of any ring. I thought the same as one person, what's wrong with a ring gift?

I'm surprised too :dunno

Am approaching the 1 year anniversary/birthday with my girlfriend, was thinking a nice necklace for her birthday, and a nice ring for our anniversary both in her birthstone color

 

[LongGoneJohn]

So get her some earrings if you don't want to go necklace or bracelet route.

My wife agrees, no ring until it's the ring. She'll have to wear the ring you buy her on the "other finger" or "other hand" and each time she looks at it she'll be reminded how you didn't ask her to marry you.

That's how my wife put it. Even if she's not "ready" to be married, she'll still think about it each time she looks.