Relationship Advice

[S1KGSXR600]

I have a long distance GF

Shes a bit younger and has always been a bit selfish

Her uncle recently died, and it's been a week since she's talked to me. Texting, of course.

She says she's going through a tough time. Doesnt seem to want my offered support, though.

But she doesnt mind going to the lake with her friends.

It concerns me she can seemingly be so focused on herself that I dont even seem to matter to her, all of a sudden.

It makes me wonder, what if we got married, and our child died? Seems it'd be the end of that.

Or maybe I'm being selfish? Is this normal behavior? Should I wait it out? Right now I'm just dealing with it and seeing how long it takes until she engages me again.

I've told her I'm there for her and such, and willing to talk. She usually doesnt respond. Doesnt respond to anything I say, either. heh

I just want to find someone who cares about me, like I care about other people.

Motorcyclerelationshipadvice. Kind of out of place but thanks for any perspectives. Conflicted

 

[budgie45]

Maybe she found a new man
If she won't answer back your texts.just leave it dating younger girls never works out they get bored.plus the long distance thing,you don't know what she's doing behind your back

 

[S1KGSXR600]

Maybe she found a new man
If she won't answer back your texts.just leave it dating younger girls never works out they get bored.plus the long distance thing,you don't know what she's doing behind your back

*Shrug* I wouldnt be surprised, I have faith in her though, but you never know.

 

[jafo]

Hang in there, long distance relationships always have a happy ending, especially when one person is younger.................in opposite land

Most likely it's over. Going to lake with friends= banging other people at the lake. Try to mentally prepare yourself so when she ends it, you can be all "I just want you to be happy, and I hope we can stay friends"

Billions of people on the planet, we've all been where you are. Alcohol/other vajeen/time

 

[S1KGSXR600]

Hang in there, long distance relationships always have a happy ending, especially when one person is younger.................in opposite land

Most likely it's over. Going to lake with friends= banging other people at the lake. Try to mentally prepare yourself so when she ends it, you can be all "I just want you to be happy, and I hope we can stay friends"

Billions of people on the planet, we've all been where you are. Alcohol/other vajeen/time

:laughing

I dont think much banging goes on at the lake in utah, probably at someones house more likely! Thanks for your perspective

 

[ABC]

I'm trying to see pics so I can base my decision/answer off that

 

[S1KGSXR600]

I'm trying to see pics so I can base my decision/answer off that

She's not the hottest, but I can look past it. She really loves the water, though, so maybe it's ok she's at the beach so much... She can't really live without it

Pic of my GF with some of her friends

http://i.imgur.com/TfnFzqD.jpg

She's the one on the far left

 

[Cali]

Sorry bro, she's with someone else. Might be serious, might be meaningless fun, but there's another dude in the picture. Been there twice, no more long distance for me.

 

[Hooli]

Sure you want to be asking relationship advice on a MC forum?

 

[lefty]

OP-

I love your sense of humor!!

I would not put too much stock in the relationship advice you derive from the internets.

She 'may' be just be dealing with her grief in a different way. It may be no big deal and you will laugh at yourself later for stressing for no reason at all.

Give her time and space, and just wait it out. Just don't stress. (Easier said than done).

 

[JesasaurusRex]

A week and no replies? If you ask Dubbs, she's so in love with you she's speechless. Ask anybody else, well, Jody is wearing that thing out. The choice is yours.

 

[Wormwood]

When she returns she will be yours.

You can show your displeasure with her philandering when you PIIDB. :teeth

 

[Squidly McSmearstain]

Ok, I'll bite.....this actual, real relationship advice.

Tell her that it bothers you how she doesn't seem to be communicative. Don't do it in a confrontational way. Simply state that her lack of communication makes you feel like you're not important to her.

She'll either want to make you feel better or begin the break up proceedings. Either way, you're going to be better off.

Life's too short to put up with mystery bullshit in the relationship.

 

[MikeL]

Motorcyclerelationshipadvice. Kind of out of place but thanks for any perspectives. Conflicted

Maybe she found a new man
If she won't answer back your texts.just leave it dating younger girls never works out they get bored.plus the long distance thing,you don't know what she's doing behind your back

Hang in there, long distance relationships always have a happy ending, especially when one person is younger.................in opposite land

Most likely it's over. Going to lake with friends= banging other people at the lake. Try to mentally prepare yourself so when she ends it, you can be all "I just want you to be happy, and I hope we can stay friends"

Billions of people on the planet, we've all been where you are. Alcohol/other vajeen/time

So I went through a VERY similar situation in terms of the whole "lake" thing. My girl was younger than me by a few years, 22 while I was 25. We were long distance nearly from the moment we started dating. She moved away for some studying for about 3 months right after we went on our first few dates. Our relationship was long distance up until the last 2 months or so. It was rough to be honest, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, most would I agree.

So right towards the end, literally the week before we break up, she says "I'm gonna go to my friends lake house with my BFF and 2 dudes." Now, our relationship was SUPER solid up until this point. So I put up a little protest but otherwise was like "fine, enjoy yourself!" Obviously I was super uncomfortable with the situation.

Well, the night she gets back she lets me know she needs a break. I kinda freak out because given the situation you can tell how weird that is. About a week later she has me come over, breaks up with me, I try to be the bigger dude and say everything is cool. It fucked me up for a few months to be honest. Loved that girl.

The bottom line: It took me awhile to realize (while I still have no proof) she probably cheated on me at the lake cabin. Shitty.

This by NO means is what happened to you. She just lost an Uncle and sometimes people deal with grief in a weird way. As other said, give her space, and unless you have proof of something negative.. you're kinda at an impasse. It's up to you to decide whether you want to keep dealing with the situation or not.

 

[rodr]

If there's a reason not to think it's over, I don't see it.

And the "selfish" thing ... big red flag. Not likely to get better.

 

[Blankpage]

Unless she was living under her uncle's care it shouldn't be a huge trauma, more likely an excuse to cover something else she's thinking.

You don't want to think it but spider senses says its done. The more you try to save it at this point the more done it will be. If you want to save it walk away for now.

 

[MrIncredible]

I've never seen any good reason to be in a long distance relationship.

Find one you can walk to.

Don't tell her how close you live.

 

[TripleSeven]

If she's not texting you, she's definitely texting someone else.

 

[MikeL]

If she's not texting you, she's definitely texting someone else.

While possible, I think this only applies to certain people. If the relationship is setup where people text 24/7, then it's weird when they stop. But if someone doesn't text a lot because they just are not big texters, you really can't say it means much.

 

[Eldritch]

When she returns she will be yours.

You can show your displeasure with her philandering when you PIIDB. :teeth

Also, two in the pink, one in the stink.