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MysterYvil

Mr. Bad Example
I am viewed as a male and that has accorded me many rights and often preferential treatment throughout my life.

My partner is viewed as female, and has faced many hurdles that I have never seen or noticed because I am not part of her group.

I don't want my progeny to suffer for this reflexive separation accorded to genders. I get very upset (and often outspoken to the point of being offensive) when I see it happening.

What is the best way to address these inequalities?
 
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MysterYvil

Mr. Bad Example
GPzPop said:
avoid other people?
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I have to deal with people every day. Mrs. has to deal with people every day.

However, we get treated differently every day because of gender.

And now that we have a global economy that (usually via phone) exposes us routinely to other cultures how can we address the inequality of treatment?
 
rodr

rodr

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I would say education systems are the place to start. From a young age.

Also, many women go to a lot of trouble to look sexy in the work place. I think that's worth some debate.
 
BeksNY

BeksNY

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I'm not sure I've got a good answer, but I have a friend of the family who is teaching his 8-year old son (by example, not so much by direct words) that women are more likely to be emotional and to talk too much. There are tons and tons of examples with this particular kid and his dad, but I tend to ask questions when the son comes out with misogynist statements. Like, "What makes you think that?"

I recently watched The Mask You Live In (currently on Netflix) with my spouse. We were amazed at how powerful it was as a movie and found ourselves regularly pausing it to discuss.
 
SteelerFanatic

SteelerFanatic

TEAM BARF-MW2
I think change is already coming and it is very much welcomed.

My youngest is 15 and a sophomore in high school and the things he's aware of in this regard is amazing. Gender identification is a huge topic and difference between him and us as his parents.

By identification I mean the understanding that gender isn't binary and that gender isn't a variable in capability.

I think it's great, even if it seems different to us. We may never understand the things his generation identifies and understands natively, but I think it's heading the right way.

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Smash Allen

Smash Allen

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Oh we are talking about mutations and dysfunctional chromosomes?

In that case, in utero testing, let’s try again honey :laughing
 
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I would not take the misbehavior of others too personally. There are a lot of rude people out there who aren't even aware of what they're doing. Close friends and family is where we should all find comfort. Knowing myself, I have always avoided any job where I need to interact with customers at the front line.

Education is the great equalizer. If you want your child or children to have a chance at succeeding in life, give every opportunity to her/him/them the social and vocational skills and/or college education to compete in life and don't bubblewrap proof them, let them experience the good and bad and let them know they can come to you as their boulder. Instead of lack of opportunities, they will have choices (e.g., whether to work quietly or have interaction with unpredictable customers).

Although I work in a large corporation that is headed by men, there are women being promoted to key managerial positions. I am sure those were strategic decisions based on merit. Although I am female, my performance review is based on what I was able to achieve and I have never felt "held back" by anyone, especially by a man.


There are too many people conceiving without planning and just hoping that everything will turn out okay. That is a disaster waiting to evolve. Parenting is a life-long job. It does not stop when the kid reaches 21.
 
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SM610

SM610

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I recomend you have only male offspring, even if they arent boys. That way they they can have the same advantages you've had.
 
NorCalAthlete

NorCalAthlete

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Well, as pointed out, we're becoming more and more global as a species. As that happens, if we really want equality we're going to have to show other cultures that don't value it why they should conform to our idea of what constitutes modern societal equality. If they disagree and refuse to conform / assimilate, how should we handle that? And if they further decide that we're the ones who need to conform to their ideas of equality, how should we respond?
 
bpw

bpw

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Smash Allen said:
Oh we are talking about mutations and dysfunctional chromosomes?

In that case, in utero testing, let’s try again honey :laughing
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Its actually quite possible you have dated a women with something other than XX chromosones, especially if you like tall girls. Its not that uncommon, and isn't necessarily physical noticeable.

There really isn't any way to define gender that is truly binary.
 
Climber

Climber

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Smash Allen said:
Sexuality is not binary, but you bet your damn genes your gender is.
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There are two parts to gender, one is the gender you have, the other is the emotional/psychological gender.

Apparently, from a very young age, some people are emotionally and psychologically a different gender than their physical body.

This has been observed in very young children who were too young to have made any kind of conscious choice through sexuality.

Whether you want to acknowledge the possibility of that or not doesn't change the reality of it.
 
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