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so my father who i havent talked to in about 5 years besides one brief lunch where he sat across from me, but never really said much was on life support for the last 8 days. He has muscular dystrophy as do I so we knew it was serious and possibly the last time any family would see him if they int-abated him. when he entered the hospital he was semi conscious but everything he said was gibberish.
by that night he was completely comatose with no ability to function on his own and no response to any sort of stimuli. they resuscitated him 4 times that sunday and finally got his heart stable with meds, int-abated him and put him on a respirator.
we went out to modesto tuesday to see him as we were unaware anything was even going on. after talking to his doc in ICU and the various other proffesionals taking care of him we knew how bad it was even though his wife and my brother (who lives with him) were telling everyone that everything was great and that my father would be home in 2 weeks back to his normal self:rolleyes
they took the tubes out yesterday and he immediately started dying due to his inability to make his throat function due to his disease, he was resuscitated again due to his wife's wishes at which time he opened his right eye for the first time since he had been there and he muttered "NO MORE". three docs came in and made the decision that at that time my father was able to make his own decision and when they asked him again if he wanted to be resuscitated or be put back on life support he said no.
I am now just coming to find that he has been resuscitated just under 15 times in the time he has been in the hospital because his wife didn't feel it was his time to go and she wanted to make sure people from his church had time to see him, mormons not that it matters.
so after large blood clots were found through out his chest, he has had multiple massive strokes early last week and his chest is filling with fluid due to pneumonia the wife is finally coming to terms with his death that will happen in the next few hours.
so the question is do you let someone suffer for days on end or just let them go? At what point do you decide? How about for yourself?
My wife and I reviewed our advanced directives and made changes this week due to this event. I can honestly say if i am not reactive to stimuli the first day i don't want to live on life support:thumbdown
sorry for the long post, I have been a member here for a long time and consider BARF to be friends and family and about the only way i can vent all this at the moment.
by that night he was completely comatose with no ability to function on his own and no response to any sort of stimuli. they resuscitated him 4 times that sunday and finally got his heart stable with meds, int-abated him and put him on a respirator.
we went out to modesto tuesday to see him as we were unaware anything was even going on. after talking to his doc in ICU and the various other proffesionals taking care of him we knew how bad it was even though his wife and my brother (who lives with him) were telling everyone that everything was great and that my father would be home in 2 weeks back to his normal self:rolleyes
they took the tubes out yesterday and he immediately started dying due to his inability to make his throat function due to his disease, he was resuscitated again due to his wife's wishes at which time he opened his right eye for the first time since he had been there and he muttered "NO MORE". three docs came in and made the decision that at that time my father was able to make his own decision and when they asked him again if he wanted to be resuscitated or be put back on life support he said no.
I am now just coming to find that he has been resuscitated just under 15 times in the time he has been in the hospital because his wife didn't feel it was his time to go and she wanted to make sure people from his church had time to see him, mormons not that it matters.
so after large blood clots were found through out his chest, he has had multiple massive strokes early last week and his chest is filling with fluid due to pneumonia the wife is finally coming to terms with his death that will happen in the next few hours.
so the question is do you let someone suffer for days on end or just let them go? At what point do you decide? How about for yourself?
My wife and I reviewed our advanced directives and made changes this week due to this event. I can honestly say if i am not reactive to stimuli the first day i don't want to live on life support:thumbdown
sorry for the long post, I have been a member here for a long time and consider BARF to be friends and family and about the only way i can vent all this at the moment.