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Apartment swap - is that even an option? I'm trying to come up with creative ways to deal with a bad neighbor situation.
Soooo, one thing I’ve learned about life is if you put it out there, it will come. I’m putting it out there. I need a new and safe place to live.
“To be or not to be a housemate?” That's the question. “I wasn’t looking for a housemate when I found one.” That’s the answer.
I wrote this with a housemate situation in mind. I dare to ask for feedback/solutions that I can work with. BARFers, the key phrase here is THAT I CAN WORK WITH. Not arm me to the :teeth to solve the problem. :laughing
**<added> My housemate is quiet, shy to a fault, a non-drinking/drug using adult. He's been employed almost continuously since living with me, with one small break between jobs. He pays his rent early and I pay the unit's rent on time. I wouldn’t hesitate to bring him with me.
One thing I try to do is be honest with myself about who I am: the good, the bad, the amazing.
Sharing your home with someone is a commitment. It’s a relationship that requires trust, honesty and a willingness to help. It’s helpful to discuss each other’s strengths and weaknesses. For example, your strength may be doing dishes and your weakness is putting them away. No problem! I don’t mind doing either one. I just don’t want to do both. So, I take on putting the dishes away regardless if they’re yours or mine and do it without being asked. You take on the dish-doing. Problem solved. (Yes. This was an actual solution to a housemate situation.) Lessoned learned: Talk! Say what you mean, mean what you say. Find a solution. Do your part.
Sharing responsibilities may not always look equal and it doesn’t have to be, as long as both parties are flexible and in agreement. Another example of good roommating: I cooked more than my 2 male housemates. They liked my cooking and eventually asked if I would also cook for them if they bought the food. No problem! They bought groceries and the good meats. (2 techie salaries vs 1 HR salary) Win/win. I would text them when I was going to be home and cooking. I didn’t mind this arrangement and they didn’t expect a meal every day. But, you have to ask: How were the dishes handled? See above. The third housemate didn’t do dishes. He paid higher rent and was rarely home, ~5 days a month, giving the other housemate and me the luxury of a 4/3 house practically to ourselves. He got a Bye on most household chores, but not all.
Details:
Location: Between San Mateo and San Jose
Move date: Any time between now and yesterday or in the next few months
Rent: Negotiable
Pets: I have 2 cats
No smoking/drugs, light drinking
No OCD habits (I put this here because of my BF. His OCD is tolerable for me.)
Being able to cook and have overnight guests are a must. Isn't that just normal behavior?
Nov 3, 2017
Soooo, one thing I’ve learned about life is if you put it out there, it will come. I’m putting it out there. I need a new and safe place to live.
“To be or not to be a housemate?” That's the question. “I wasn’t looking for a housemate when I found one.” That’s the answer.
I wrote this with a housemate situation in mind. I dare to ask for feedback/solutions that I can work with. BARFers, the key phrase here is THAT I CAN WORK WITH. Not arm me to the :teeth to solve the problem. :laughing
**<added> My housemate is quiet, shy to a fault, a non-drinking/drug using adult. He's been employed almost continuously since living with me, with one small break between jobs. He pays his rent early and I pay the unit's rent on time. I wouldn’t hesitate to bring him with me.
One thing I try to do is be honest with myself about who I am: the good, the bad, the amazing.
Sharing your home with someone is a commitment. It’s a relationship that requires trust, honesty and a willingness to help. It’s helpful to discuss each other’s strengths and weaknesses. For example, your strength may be doing dishes and your weakness is putting them away. No problem! I don’t mind doing either one. I just don’t want to do both. So, I take on putting the dishes away regardless if they’re yours or mine and do it without being asked. You take on the dish-doing. Problem solved. (Yes. This was an actual solution to a housemate situation.) Lessoned learned: Talk! Say what you mean, mean what you say. Find a solution. Do your part.
Sharing responsibilities may not always look equal and it doesn’t have to be, as long as both parties are flexible and in agreement. Another example of good roommating: I cooked more than my 2 male housemates. They liked my cooking and eventually asked if I would also cook for them if they bought the food. No problem! They bought groceries and the good meats. (2 techie salaries vs 1 HR salary) Win/win. I would text them when I was going to be home and cooking. I didn’t mind this arrangement and they didn’t expect a meal every day. But, you have to ask: How were the dishes handled? See above. The third housemate didn’t do dishes. He paid higher rent and was rarely home, ~5 days a month, giving the other housemate and me the luxury of a 4/3 house practically to ourselves. He got a Bye on most household chores, but not all.
Details:
Location: Between San Mateo and San Jose
Move date: Any time between now and yesterday or in the next few months
Rent: Negotiable
Pets: I have 2 cats
No smoking/drugs, light drinking
No OCD habits (I put this here because of my BF. His OCD is tolerable for me.)
Being able to cook and have overnight guests are a must. Isn't that just normal behavior?
Nov 3, 2017